No Such Thing As A Secret

This says it all: "Three can keep a secret, if two of them are dead." —Benjamin FranklinThere is no such thing as a secret. That’s the best attitude to have. Obviously a lot of people get away with hiding a lot of things but it's very risky.

It's hard to keep a secret.

Have you ever heard of the concept of “ if something can go wrong it will”? Also that when it goes wrong “it will go wrong at the worst possible time.”

You don’t need that hanging over your head. It's going to be impossible for you to continue to play at your best knowing there are things that could come to light at any time that could instantly turn your life into a nightmare.

One problem comes…
...when you get away with it for a while and then you think you are safe. You think you are above the law. Then you get sloppy. It's only a matter of time before the explosion comes. And once the toothpaste starts to pour out of the tube, it's not going back in.

Tiger Woods thought he was getting away with it. Enron executives thought they were getting away with it. NY Governor Elliot Spitzer though he was getting away with it. When the explosion came it was disastrous and totally destroyed all the positives of a lifetime that they had built up.

Another problem is…
...when the secret starts to come out it's so tempting to make desperate attempts to cover it up. These efforts almost never work and make the situation exponentially worse than they would have been if the mistakes had just been honestly acknowledged.

Isn’t it always said, as they lead people off to jail, that the actions that started the problem weren’t really the problem, it was the things done to “cover up” that ultimately got the offenders into real trouble.
So what is the best policy?

Always assume as you go through life that…THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS A SECRET.