A Pig With A Pink Ribbon Is Still A Pig

It's what they are.  

You can wash a pig and spray him with perfume and he's still a pig. You can put a pink ribbon around it and dress it in a pretty pig dress. They look good. They smell good. They look transformed! But let them outside and they will happily run straight to the nearest mud puddle they can find. Why? It’s their NATURE.

 

People with character issues will always disappoint you. 

Never put them in a position of responsibility unless you can keep a close eye on them. People can change but they really have want to and it won’t happen all at once. It’s great to give people a second chance but you better keep your eye on them.

Don’t put them in a position where their weakness can drag them and you down. You may think they are grateful and appreciative. They may even tell you they are, but what they are thinking is that they got away with it. They are thinking you are someone they can control and manipulate with excuses.

 

Don’t try to analyze or reason with them like you would a person you can trust.

The reason is, they don’t think like you do. You can’t really understand how they think and they aren’t even trying to understand how you think. They have their own agenda. They don’t understand give and take. They aren’t interested in fairness. They aren’t capable of considering what’s best for you. They’ll always cut any corners they can to give themselves and advantage. Trying to reason with them is futile. They don’t need you, they need professional help. But guess what? They don’t want help. 

 

If you doubt that, think about this.

One of the characteristics of people with character issues is that they live in denial. They don't take responsibility. They don't feel like they need to change. They are looking for ways to get ahead without working, without earning it. They see things you have and decide they need to have them. Why not? You have plenty.

If you catch them in a lie they will, on the spot, come up with another plausible sounding lie to cover up the first. I’ve always been amazed at the ability of people like this to effortlessly spin another bigger lie or rationalization whenever they are challenged. It’s at moments like this you realize you are dealing with someone who is not like you…AT ALL. Not only can they make up one lie after another, they seem to have the ability to believe it as truth as soon as they say it.  

That’s why if you insist on keeping them around you must keep your eye on them.  
Don't let their weakness hurt you. Sure it's great to give people a chance, but why put them in a position where they likely to fail? It's not fair to them, it's not fair to you.

Pay attention to character. You can’t let yourself be lulled to sleep by appearances. They may make an effort to look, talk and act better. They may make a great effort to act like they have changed. But stay alert. Any change will take a long, long time and they will probably have many relapses along the way. They may look pretty on the outside, but it’s what’s inside, their character that controls their actions. 

If they are rotten inside, they’ll act rotten because they can’t help it, it’s their nature. A pig is a pig is a pig - whether it's wearing a pink ribbon or not.

You Won't Know Until You Try

 What you see on the outside very often has NOTHING to do with a person's potential.

"There has never been a test—and there never will be a test that can measure the heart of a man or woman." —Art Williams

Life is full of opportunities.

As you look out there and try to decide what you are going to do with your life, you wonder… “Could I do that? Would I be any good at that?”

There is only one way to find out. Go for it!
Tennis may look like fun, but you’ll never know until you get a racket, get on the court and start hitting some balls. Until you get into the water, you’ll never know if you really like swimming.

On the outside looking in you get certain impressions on how it would be to work somewhere, but you’ll never know for sure how you like it until yo start doing it. You’ll also never know if you have an aptitude for it, if you could be good at it.

The same with employers.
They’ll never really know until they see you in action. It's even true in professional sports. They put months of analysis, testings, interviewing, looking at video, conducting tryouts to see who they are going to draft. They make their pick, sign them to million dollar contracts and then hope. Because years of experience has taught them that they really are just guessing. They won’t know, even after all that research, how they will perform in intense game situations.

So what’s the point? 
If you think you’d like to do something, if you think you would enjoy it and be good at it, then get started and find out for sure as soon as possible.

And if you are an employer...
Don’t pick your winners on appearance. Get them in the game and let them show you who the best ones are. Because if you try to pick them in advance, you’ll almost always get the wrong one.

Testing scores can’t measure anyone’s heart—their will to win. 

And their will to win is what makes them Winners!

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Have you been underestimating yourself, or holding yourself back because you're afraid to try? Or have you hired someone who totally suprised you (or disappointed you) because you misjudged their appearance?

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